Have you ever wondered how your love life will look like?
If you’re attached and in a healthy, mutually edifying relationship, then I’m happy for you and wish you all the best in keeping things that way, in line with God’s will.
If you’re like me and single, then you might wonder, what is God doing? Why isn’t my love story progressing like my friends’? Why aren’t I blissfully attached?
One reason perhaps is because if our source of joy is our romance, then our lack thereof is also due to our romance. Romance becomes the centre of our lives, and if anything other than Christ takes centre, noble it may be, we are setting ourselves up for a great fall. Christ has to be centre.
Suppose Christ is in the centre. Why then is God withholding this good gift from me? Perhaps we are not ready, physically, emotionally and spiritually, to commit to the responsibilities that a relationship entails. The romance is sweet, but when the feelings cool down, mutual commitment is crucial, and some of us may just not be ready for it. Commitment turns into emotional attachment that drains the other party or a lack of it leads to the boogeyman of romance—breakups. Thus, we enter a relationship with marriage as an end goal (not the only one) and commit to build it even when we don’t feel it.
Suppose we are ready. Why then is God so silent on this issue? Every relationship takes 2, and perhaps you may be ready, but your beau isn’t, and God is moulding your beau and preparing him/her to enter this blissful challenge. He always gives us the best blessings with the best people at the best time.
In light of all that we talked about, what do you do now? Do you stop thinking of your beau? It’s tempting to think so, and for some it might be good, but the principle is this—let the thoughts of your beau point you to Christ. Let what attracts you to them remind you of what attracts you to Christ. Let your desire to spend time with them relight your desire to spend time with Christ.
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” [Philippians 4:8]
May Christ be the centre of our lives, and hence our romance, and hence let’s trust in Him and wait on Him to write the most amazing love stories we will ever experience—our own.